Getting up so early in the morning was always an effort. Then there was the walk to work, hunched up inside my coat, smoking my breakfast. When I arrived at work it would be 7am or, if I'm honest, 7.03 am or even 7.05 - by which time you were hoping the assistant head was down the other end of the building, sorting out some crisis or other (not that she'd ever say anything - you just wanted to spare yourself the humiliation).
It was a real institution in those days. Benign -it was a cheerful place to live and work- but an institution nevertheless. As soon as 'changeover' was over, the morning shift set about getting everybody out of bed. This was a challenge: we weren't bullies and we wanted everyone to do things in their own time but the pressure was on to get everyone into the dining room by 8.
I'd go and hang my coat up in the staff-room. There would be a clatter of pans in the kitchen, where preparations for breakfast were already underway. There'd be a brief meet-up with the night-staff. This was usually a formality. Most nights they had nothing to do but iron the copious mounds of clean washing we'd laundered the day before. Then we'd divvy up the jobs. Some of us would have to help the residents who needed the most help to get up - you'd have to lift, wash and dress them. Others would go round knocking on bedroom doors and set the tables in the dining room.
From that moment on it was all go, until everyone was sat in the dining room. I never remember thinking this at the time but it was rather like breakfast in a hotel. Perhaps that's because I'd hardly ever been to a hotel back then. You felt a vague sense of achievement at this point: the job, which seemed impossible an hour earlier, had been done.
Once breakfast was over and the kitchen assistant had set about washing up, the residents retired to the TV room to spend the morning watching whatever happened to be on. At this point, we set off to make the beds, working our way down the corridor from room to room. Sometimes this was just a matter of smoothing sheets and blankets neatly and tucking them in. (These were the days -just- before the duvet took the British bedroom by storm: when they came in they took some getting used to for us professional bed-makers).
Twenty-six bedrooms, split over two floors. We worked in pairs: two of us upstairs, two of us downstairs. At the end of the corridor, in the room furthest away from 'the office', we'd open the window, sit on the bed and light up a well-deserved fag. Then we'd set off back to the dining room for our break proper, collecting up any dirty bedding on the way and sticking it into the washing machine. Our break proper involved sitting and chatting over a couple of slices of toast, a cup of tea and another obligatory cigarette. A year later, a new head of home was to frown upon the provision of free toast. He was not popular.
This was London in 1980. I remember realising that just about everybody I worked with was vegetarian, gay, or a member of an ethnic minority. We made a great team, I think. This was the time just before the AIDS epidemic and I often wonder, sadly, what became of Peter and the two Johns. Young people came and either went or decided (like me) that this was the job for them.
As I said, it was a real -if benign- institution. Thankfully, over the next two years our jobs gradually changed for the better. Anonymous in this account, the people we cared for began to emerge from that anonymity. Like the duvet, care in the community was on the way in. Where we had been expected to do things for people we began to help people do things for themselves. The staff-room became a bedsit: somewhere people could learn to live more independently before, ideally, moving out. We cheerfully gave up our space: most of us, although we had always enjoyed the job, were delighted with the way things were going.
You certainly had an interesting life back then. It seems to have been a very fulfilling and satisfying job.
ReplyDeleteIt was my favorite ever job, funnily enough. I did social work training and climbed up a few rungs on the career ladder afterwards. My favourite job of all though, looking back, was being a care assistant. Definitely.
Delete'Smoking my breakfast'. I loved that. Free toast? Disgraceful.
ReplyDeleteYep. Looking back I've no doubt it was the prime cause of the recession that blighted the UK economy in the early 1980s.
DeleteHaving spent the last two years on a weekly visit with a friend who had moved to a memory care residence, the routine you describe is familiar to me, and I have nothing but respect and gratitude for those people who have the gift of being able to do the compassionate work you described. My friend died in December under hospice care in her memory care residence. Because of COVID-19, I was not able to visit her during her last weeks of life. One of her young caregivers, a biracial woman who is a college student, was with her in her dying moments.
ReplyDeleteThank you for writing about this part of your life and for featuring the Carolina Chocolate Drops. One of my oldest friends lives in North Carolina in the town where MerleFest takes place. She introduced me to the music of the Carolina Chocolate Drops after hearing them in person at MerleFest. You've reminded me of Rhiannon Gidden's renditions of Bob Dylan songs on "The New Basement Tapes."
Thanks for that. I got into the Chocolate Drops when I bought myself a banjo a year or two back.
DeleteReading this reminds me so much of my mom's last few years in an assisted living facility. We always so appreciated the kind caregivers, the ones who took the time to really assist. I am remembering a scene in the dining room when there was some lovely live music and my mom got up to dance with one of the caregivers. It takes a big heart and a very kind soul.
ReplyDeleteOne of the great things about carework is that you never wonder if the job's worth doing. You know that what you're doing has to be done by somebody. The things that are difficult to cope with are going on whether you're the one doing the job or not - so it might as well be you.
DeleteInteresting to read how Care was back then. I am sure it has changed for the better - I worked with handicapped children with similar needs and I know that has changed too.
ReplyDeleteI think it has changed less than it could have.
DeleteA lot of us working then were very idealistic about community care but good community care is very expensive and there's never been the political will to fund it. Poor community care, a threadbare, minimal service, is a lot cheaper. Then privatisation came along... I could go on.
It's a good thing that you genuinely cared for these people. Yes, looking after people has changed for the better in some places.
ReplyDeleteIt has. What depresses me though is seeing in the media the same problems cropping up that we thought we were beginning to solve years ago.
DeleteIf I were younger again, I'd do it again.
That could almost have been me writing that, though I was ten years later and helping children with profound learning difficulties and a few with autism. No smoking allowed on site though and I was only late once in over twenty years - I just found it so much easier to be a bit early. We even had a kitchen supervisor who objected to staff toast and tea; the headmaster at the time simply walked into the flats next morning and made tea for everyone!
ReplyDeleteThat Carolina Chocolate Drops video is on my frequent play list too!
As I remember it most of us were always turning up at the last minute! What I hated about that was the anxiety of being late. We all turned up within 5 minutes of each other but nobody wanted to be last in!
DeleteWhat an interesting job and one where you could make a difference for others. It takes a special person to do that work and it sounds like you did it well.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I'm not sure how special you need to be, to be honest. I think it requires us to use a side of ourselves that most of us have - a side that, perhaps for many people, doesn't get much use most of the time. It's a very enjoyable job as jobs go.
DeleteI love the work, but the problem for me always boils down to this: short staffing to maximize the profits means that you are rushing through your work, the goal being to get everything done while the residents' emotional needs are unmet. In any of the places that I've ever worked, if you stop to be friendly or to comfort, you are chided for not being productive. I couldn't do it. I just couldn't stand to brush past them.
ReplyDeleteThis job then wasn't like that, fortunately - at least it wasn't when we developed what we were doing. It was in a left wing London borough. We got comparatively well paid and had high staffing levels. Subsequent jobs I took in other parts of the country in care work certainly were more difficult to do well.
DeleteThe duvet seemed to herald the way for us all to become truly European.....how sadly wrong that is proving to be.
ReplyDeleteCare and Kindness are to be treasured.
It did, didn't it? Quel dommage.
DeleteAn optimistic friend of mine reckons that ten years from now we'll be using the Euro and the EU flag will be flying from British town halls. I don't know if he's right but I do think it's not over yet.
Well, as they say, it is not all over until the fat lady sings!! Perhaps Brexit is an opera in several acts. We shall see....
DeleteWe would all be lost without care assistants that's for sure. Such pettiness over free toast how the little people loved to strut their stuff.
ReplyDeleteAnd how the little people can end up rising to the top.
DeleteMy happiest days at work have always been spent on the bottom rung of the career ladder.